^^^^um, Alice, Im not sure where you're from..BUT this is Merica, round here we're guilty until proven innocent.She just lost her child because her boyfriend and her had a disagreement AND she took her PRESCRIPTION MEDICATION! You understand that right? She did everything they asked her to and they still took her child. Shes been proving for over a year that she IS A GOOD MOTHER , not that she can be. Its also quite difficult to show someone what kind of mother you are, if their not allowing you the oppurtunity throughout the "safety plan" technique. Cps here in Ohio helped my Narcissistic mother legally kidnap my child, AFTER THERE HAD ALREADY BEEN A KIDNAPPING REPORT FILED WITH THE POLICE.She wanted to cover her own and used the system to do it. Evidence was falsified, lies were dispursed as witness testimony. My 15 year old sister and her 19 year old boyfriend did and said exactly as my mother told them, because you dont cross my mommy dearest. I had just spent the last 2 and a half years in a mentally/emotionally physically abusive relationship. I knew nothing about the organizations and programs they had available for single mothers leaving d.v. SITUATIONS AND CPS NEVER EVEN OFFERED TO HELP ME!!! My son and I were able to get away, I was finally done, I had finally been so shook by fear, that it didnt matter that I had nowhere to go, I had my car and My son and the clothes on our backs. WE were GONE! In a panic and worried about where my hcild would lay his head. At the time it was a little over a week before my sons first birthday I was a fulltime student at Columbus state, I went to my mother. My dads health was depleting fast there was no way his heart would allow him to have a 1 year around 24/7 in a one bdrm 300 sq ft tiny house. I went to my mother BEGGING HER TO ALLOW ME TO STAY THERE.We hung out at my mothers for a couple hours( I let it out I broke down I confided and bawled my eyes out to my mother about how i felt like I was going to have a mental breakdown told her I need to get back in counseling that I needed help processing everything<< this information was used against me" upon interview between cps and my mom, later) We stopped by at least a couple times a month... My mother(and 15y/o sister..the infamous babysitting job) had literally watched him a half a dozen times no more than a dozen. He had stayed the night a there a total of 3 times, one of those was when my best friend and I had some girl time and my mother and sister watched cali and callan both over night.
My mom and dad had jsut gotten a divorce a little over a year prior, she was already buying a home with this new boyfriend. Anyways, a couple hours later the decision was made that My son could stay there for as long as I need, BUT, I was not welcome to stay here as Brian doesn't like you, He doesnt want you in his house, But I talked him into allowing Cal to stay as long as you need him too and your okay to stay the next few nights until you figure out somewhere else to go. Callan will always have a roof over his head as long as I have a home. You dont have to worry about that. SO, I did what I thought was best for my child. I found a way to provide a clean, stable, familiar environment trying to ensure that any seen/unseen negative impact on my child was as minimal as possible. I thought I was being a Good Mom.THis was the worst mistake I have ever made in my life! This is my biggest regret! I was able to get about a week and half of overnights possibly two total at my moms. While I was there I was treated like complete shit by the rest of the household, I spent more time trying to clean,cook,pick up after and chase and please my 1 year old son, also, picking up after a spoiled,entitled, ungrateful 15 year old sister with a mean streak the size of Texas and help my mother get caught up on laundry than anything else. My sister would not watch my son in order for me to leave and go look for jobs or help etc, unless I paid her.She babysat whenever for my mom, when my mom said though. But My mom would only command her to if there was an interview!!!! I had the computer for research, I would stay up half the night listening to music and searching for cheap housing/ employment.The nights I did stay I was cornered several occasions, made uncomfortable almost everytime my mothers back was turned, as well as, FREQUENTLY told how beautiful I am and how much I look like my mother, even got a smack on the ass a couple different times. I was falling behind in school. One night I even ended up in a slightly physical altercation with my mothers drunk boyfriend, AFTER he became irritable with my mother, his anger boiled over, the next thing i know he had my mom as tight as he could by her arm trying to pin her against the wall HE WOULD NOT LET GO. I involved myself and had my lil sister take my son in her room and her boyfriend helped me get Brian off of my mom as well. I backed him up into his room and told him he would end up in prison or in a ditch if he EVER PUT HANDS ON MY MOTHER AGAIN. That was the end of any politeness or hospitality from him. After that I was no long er allowed there at all! My mother would allow me to come while Brian was at work. I would come spend time and visit with callan about noon to 3:15 I would be sneaking out the front as hes pulling up out back. I came over one day and tried to leave with my son ( I had a friend who was going to let me and Cal stay with them a couple weeks at her step-dad in laws who was also a pastor and had possible employment options for me)
I had been staying their almost a week when I made the decision that it was safe and comfortable , I had gotten to know My friends in-laws, attending church as I felt and always getting involved in small study twice a week. Trying to work on myself. I went to pick my son up from my mothers and my sister WOULD NOT LET ME LEAVE I was literally barricaded from leaving my mothers house with my son. I gave him lovins told him I would be back, I left to get some sort of help or someone that could diffuse the situation that my mother and sister at least liked lol. When I came back I was met by my mother, my sister, and a social worker. "Someone" had called CPS on me with severe allegations of neglect and abuse and addiction abuse problems, and that my child and I were currently in residence at my mothers, but that I hadn"t been seen or heard from but one time for almost 2 weeks.
My M&S swore it must have been Brian because "he hates me so much" CPS FORCED ME TO SIGN A SAFETY PLAN THEY DRUG TESTED ME ON THE SPOT, The social worker said it looked like a faint positive for Marijuanauana, which i told her was a possibility but that was it. She said it was so faint that she wasnt sure it could even be counted as positive. I did regular drug testing I did a hair follicle test I went to counseling a few times, I tried to do everything they asked me too! If I hadnt signed the safety plan that says my son stays at my mothers residence while their case is open they were going to put him in foster care. by the end of it They closed my case.I wasnt doing anything wrong as a mother, to my child I was trying to make the best of my siuation. Mind you the whole time this case is open, they didnt try to help me with a place to live, offer any resources or contacts, ANY GUIDANCE WHAT SO EVER, knowing the reason my son was with my mom was because I was homeless and bouncing from home to home and was struggling to find a job that would pay enough that I could actually afford a place to live.I passed all of their tests ALL of the allegations were proven false, CPS CLOSED MY CASE.
Then My caseworker for that case contacted my mother off books stating that if my mother really felt its in the childs best interest to be with her, that she will absolutely vouche for my mother in court. Explained to her all about an ex parte hearing for emergency immediate custody.. they gave my mom a court ordered paper my mom gave it to my brother to serve me. I told my mom that she was a lying manipulative bitch and how could she go behind my back and do something like this when i confided in her about how my mental health was not so great. I told her " you knew that Callan was my only reason for living breathing for trying anymore. You are the cruelest person i have ever met How could any mother do something so drastic so traumatizing in an already traumatic situation No real mother who loved their child would ever do something like this. I will never forgive you for this you cold hearted bitch. Thats when she snapped told me i was a mistake and she never she shouldve had me , that i ruined her life in the first place and punched me at least 15 times ..i grabbed hold of her arms to hold her back when i put my hand on her...JUST IN DEFENSE TO PROTECT MYSELF AND STOP HER FROM HITTING ME... My sister decided it was her turn... I ended up jumped by my mom and my sister who had a good 3-4 inches in height on me and 80 pounds.. i didnt want to hurt a minor... theres not much self defense i can do with over 200 pounds on top of me... My brother who was 19 ... saw me getting fed up as my sister is on top of me pummeling me while im still seeing stars from where she line backed me hitting my head on corner of the 100 year old cedar chest I went to use my legs underneath her to throw her up off of me and as I did my brother grabbed hold of my hair and drug me out my moms porch down the concrete steps and down the concrete sidewalk to the road..i had "road rash" for almost two weeks.. so bc i decided to have a back bone and say what i thought my family beat the shit out of me...because you dont disagree with my mom..
a year later she got the child support order of 250$ a month in oct.. she dropped him off for a couple weekends starting in dec.. and by christmas he lived with us permanently for the next 3 years... where we preceded to rebuild our relationship and increase our family size bc thats what my son wnated... then last year my mother and i got in disagreement over finances.. bc for the past couple years she was claiming callan and i was paying child support.. .she told us next year you can claim him.. I mean my mom got free money every month... we didnt ask her for everything ever...bc hes our son right.. My hubby was fully financially responsbile for all of us when i was high risk pregnancy.. i got 3 months behind on my child support my mother literally called in complaining they suspended my license and arrested me and threw me in jail for back child support.. when i got out dang near a grand later... The only thing she said was she was very disappointed in me, that i need to learn to take better care of my responsiblities.
ANYWAYS next year came around we had our 3rd child then taxes came and we had already lost our place and our car had been totaled.. there were issues with out home loan we were working on so we couldve really used the money ..and she said we could claim him.. so When my hubby filed taxes our son came back already claimed..my hubby got fed up and filed that it was a mistake with the irs.. they preceded to start an investigation.. on both of us..I contacted my mom and asked why it said Callan had been claimed (mind you at this point we are stuck living 2 adults and 3 children a toddler and a baby all in a basement together, with no place of our own..) Her response was yeah I claimed him, I decided I needed the money more. I have to get the bathroom up to code bc it didnt pass inspection for the remodel loan im trying to get and besides.. I have custody I can do what I want. So when the IRS STARTED THEIR INVESTIGATION.. that was me causing her unneeded and unwanted stress to deal with .. so i am goin to be penalized.. she took callan from us.. we didnt see him or get to speak with him or even a picture for 3 months.. then she needed a sitter and we got him for the weekend and part of a week.. during summer until she found a full time sitter... which when she found out we had a family Y MEMBERSHIP ..she used our membership to put OUR son in Daycare/summer cmap and then took the privelege of us seeing him back away again.. we walk her line we do what she says we live our lives as she says.. we only keep the friends she allows.. or we dont have him simples as that..i am her puppet she is the puppet master... I have always been the outcast of my family.. I have always been the one to blame for everything ..the one with the responsiblity.. I am the scapegoat for everything.. I am also the worse child she ahs if you ask around.. But if you look at the facts..i am the only to graduate highschool im the only to graduate college I am the only one that has spent 100s of hours volunteering across the u.s. and in our community.. etc etc.. but bc im not the organized scheduling got it together always on time kind of perosn that she wants me to be.. im a p.o.s which IS ALL FINE AND DANDY except she has my kid and its not just me shes hurting anymore..its my hubby its my 3 year old and 2 year old daughters.. that i have to dry tears from every morning after they wake up and go to bubbys room and then search the hosue calling for him and not finding him anywhere ... We made it a point to tell her ..shes not just hurting me..that shes traumatizing the children.. her only response was, well Im not trying to hurt the kids?!?!?!?! and this is how its been all this year. We have literally seen my son a total of 9 times this year.. we just now was able to do christmas with him last night for a whole HOUR!! which probably wouldnt have happened if it wasnt for my mother in law contacting her.. Cause she has literally ignored every single phone call and message i have sent... although every other year of his life hes stayed on christmas eve and had xmas with us as a family.. sHE IS ALIENATING MYSELF AND OUR WHOLE FAMILY She is literally creating chaos and dysfunction in what was once a decent happily together famly.!
I contacted CPS FOR MEDICAL NEGLECT, They said it was unfounded, although he was referred by the school and his dr. to counseling for his irratic and uncontrollable impulsive behavior. She refused to take him. How is that not neglect. He walked around on a sprained foot wit htorn ligaments for almsot 2 weeks before we finally wiggled a way to c him and took him to urgent care... how is that not neglect? She didnt even bother to make sure there were no broken bones.. or have a dr. give her a 2nd opinion..i say nd bc in my mothers eyes her opinions matters 1st and foremost!.. But This is what I deal with now .. Its all thanks to cps and the family court helping my narcissistic mother legally kidnap my son. IF YOU KNOW OF ANY RESOURCES OR HELP ANY OF US CAN USE PLEASE LET US KNOW .. STAY POSITIVE WE ARE GOOD MOTHERS WE WILL GET OUR CHILDREN BACK.. AND THERE WILL ALWAYS BE THAT ONE DAY NO MATTER WHAT .. WHERE THEY TURN 18 AND COME STRAIGHT TO YOU TO FIND OUT WHATS GOING ON AND TO SEE YOU ..WE ARE THEIR MOMS... BUT HOPEFULLY WE GET THEM BACK BEFORE THEN.. STAY STRONG HAVE FAITH GOD BE WITH YOU GOD BLESS YOU I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU
well your just gonna have to proof to the cps that you can be a good mother and you'll probably get hayden back.
ReplyDelete^^^^um, Alice, Im not sure where you're from..BUT this is Merica, round here we're guilty until proven innocent.She just lost her child because her boyfriend and her had a disagreement AND she took her PRESCRIPTION MEDICATION! You understand that right? She did everything they asked her to and they still took her child. Shes been proving for over a year that she IS A GOOD MOTHER , not that she can be. Its also quite difficult to show someone what kind of mother you are, if their not allowing you the oppurtunity throughout the "safety plan" technique. Cps here in Ohio helped my Narcissistic mother legally kidnap my child, AFTER THERE HAD ALREADY BEEN A KIDNAPPING REPORT FILED WITH THE POLICE.She wanted to cover her own and used the system to do it. Evidence was falsified, lies were dispursed as witness testimony. My 15 year old sister and her 19 year old boyfriend did and said exactly as my mother told them, because you dont cross my mommy dearest. I had just spent the last 2 and a half years in a mentally/emotionally physically abusive relationship. I knew nothing about the organizations and programs they had available for single mothers leaving d.v. SITUATIONS AND CPS NEVER EVEN OFFERED TO HELP ME!!! My son and I were able to get away, I was finally done, I had finally been so shook by fear, that it didnt matter that I had nowhere to go, I had my car and My son and the clothes on our backs. WE were GONE! In a panic and worried about where my hcild would lay his head. At the time it was a little over a week before my sons first birthday I was a fulltime student at Columbus state, I went to my mother. My dads health was depleting fast there was no way his heart would allow him to have a 1 year around 24/7 in a one bdrm 300 sq ft tiny house. I went to my mother BEGGING HER TO ALLOW ME TO STAY THERE.We hung out at my mothers for a couple hours( I let it out I broke down I confided and bawled my eyes out to my mother about how i felt like I was going to have a mental breakdown told her I need to get back in counseling that I needed help processing everything<< this information was used against me" upon interview between cps and my mom, later) We stopped by at least a couple times a month... My mother(and 15y/o sister..the infamous babysitting job) had literally watched him a half a dozen times no more than a dozen. He had stayed the night a there a total of 3 times, one of those was when my best friend and I had some girl time and my mother and sister watched cali and callan both over night.
ReplyDeleteMy mom and dad had jsut gotten a divorce a little over a year prior, she was already buying a home with this new boyfriend. Anyways, a couple hours later the decision was made that My son could stay there for as long as I need, BUT, I was not welcome to stay here as Brian doesn't like you, He doesnt want you in his house, But I talked him into allowing Cal to stay as long as you need him too and your okay to stay the next few nights until you figure out somewhere else to go. Callan will always have a roof over his head as long as I have a home. You dont have to worry about that. SO, I did what I thought was best for my child. I found a way to provide a clean, stable, familiar environment trying to ensure that any seen/unseen negative impact on my child was as minimal as possible. I thought I was being a Good Mom.THis was the worst mistake I have ever made in my life! This is my biggest regret! I was able to get about a week and half of overnights possibly two total at my moms. While I was there I was treated like complete shit by the rest of the household, I spent more time trying to clean,cook,pick up after and chase and please my 1 year old son, also, picking up after a spoiled,entitled, ungrateful 15 year old sister with a mean streak the size of Texas and help my mother get caught up on laundry than anything else. My sister would not watch my son in order for me to leave and go look for jobs or help etc, unless I paid her.She babysat whenever for my mom, when my mom said though. But My mom would only command her to if there was an interview!!!! I had the computer for research, I would stay up half the night listening to music and searching for cheap housing/ employment.The nights I did stay I was cornered several occasions, made uncomfortable almost everytime my mothers back was turned, as well as, FREQUENTLY told how beautiful I am and how much I look like my mother, even got a smack on the ass a couple different times. I was falling behind in school. One night I even ended up in a slightly physical altercation with my mothers drunk boyfriend, AFTER he became irritable with my mother, his anger boiled over, the next thing i know he had my mom as tight as he could by her arm trying to pin her against the wall HE WOULD NOT LET GO. I involved myself and had my lil sister take my son in her room and her boyfriend helped me get Brian off of my mom as well. I backed him up into his room and told him he would end up in prison or in a ditch if he EVER PUT HANDS ON MY MOTHER AGAIN. That was the end of any politeness or hospitality from him. After that I was no long er allowed there at all! My mother would allow me to come while Brian was at work. I would come spend time and visit with callan about noon to 3:15 I would be sneaking out the front as hes pulling up out back. I came over one day and tried to leave with my son ( I had a friend who was going to let me and Cal stay with them a couple weeks at her step-dad in laws who was also a pastor and had possible employment options for me)
ReplyDeleteI had been staying their almost a week when I made the decision that it was safe and comfortable , I had gotten to know My friends in-laws, attending church as I felt and always getting involved in small study twice a week. Trying to work on myself. I went to pick my son up from my mothers and my sister WOULD NOT LET ME LEAVE I was literally barricaded from leaving my mothers house with my son. I gave him lovins told him I would be back, I left to get some sort of help or someone that could diffuse the situation that my mother and sister at least liked lol. When I came back I was met by my mother, my sister, and a social worker. "Someone" had called CPS on me with severe allegations of neglect and abuse and addiction abuse problems, and that my child and I were currently in residence at my mothers, but that I hadn"t been seen or heard from but one time for almost 2 weeks.
ReplyDeleteMy M&S swore it must have been Brian because "he hates me so much" CPS FORCED ME TO SIGN A SAFETY PLAN THEY DRUG TESTED ME ON THE SPOT, The social worker said it looked like a faint positive for Marijuanauana, which i told her was a possibility but that was it. She said it was so faint that she wasnt sure it could even be counted as positive. I did regular drug testing I did a hair follicle test I went to counseling a few times, I tried to do everything they asked me too! If I hadnt signed the safety plan that says my son stays at my mothers residence while their case is open they were going to put him in foster care. by the end of it They closed my case.I wasnt doing anything wrong as a mother, to my child I was trying to make the best of my siuation. Mind you the whole time this case is open, they didnt try to help me with a place to live, offer any resources or contacts, ANY GUIDANCE WHAT SO EVER, knowing the reason my son was with my mom was because I was homeless and bouncing from home to home and was struggling to find a job that would pay enough that I could actually afford a place to live.I passed all of their tests ALL of the allegations were proven false, CPS CLOSED MY CASE.
ReplyDeleteThen My caseworker for that case contacted my mother off books stating that if my mother really felt its in the childs best interest to be with her, that she will absolutely vouche for my mother in court. Explained to her all about an ex parte hearing for emergency immediate custody.. they gave my mom a court ordered paper my mom gave it to my brother to serve me. I told my mom that she was a lying manipulative bitch and how could she go behind my back and do something like this when i confided in her about how my mental health was not so great. I told her " you knew that Callan was my only reason for living breathing for trying anymore. You are the cruelest person i have ever met How could any mother do something so drastic so traumatizing in an already traumatic situation No real mother who loved their child would ever do something like this. I will never forgive you for this you cold hearted bitch. Thats when she snapped told me i was a mistake and she never she shouldve had me , that i ruined her life in the first place and punched me at least 15 times ..i grabbed hold of her arms to hold her back when i put my hand on her...JUST IN DEFENSE TO PROTECT MYSELF AND STOP HER FROM HITTING ME... My sister decided it was her turn... I ended up jumped by my mom and my sister who had a good 3-4 inches in height on me and 80 pounds.. i didnt want to hurt a minor... theres not much self defense i can do with over 200 pounds on top of me... My brother who was 19 ... saw me getting fed up as my sister is on top of me pummeling me while im still seeing stars from where she line backed me hitting my head on corner of the 100 year old cedar chest I went to use my legs underneath her to throw her up off of me and as I did my brother grabbed hold of my hair and drug me out my moms porch down the concrete steps and down the concrete sidewalk to the road..i had "road rash" for almost two weeks.. so bc i decided to have a back bone and say what i thought my family beat the shit out of me...because you dont disagree with my mom..
Deletea year later she got the child support order of 250$ a month in oct.. she dropped him off for a couple weekends starting in dec.. and by christmas he lived with us permanently for the next 3 years... where we preceded to rebuild our relationship and increase our family size bc thats what my son wnated... then last year my mother and i got in disagreement over finances.. bc for the past couple years she was claiming callan and i was paying child support.. .she told us next year you can claim him.. I mean my mom got free money every month... we didnt ask her for everything ever...bc hes our son right.. My hubby was fully financially responsbile for all of us when i was high risk pregnancy.. i got 3 months behind on my child support my mother literally called in complaining they suspended my license and arrested me and threw me in jail for back child support.. when i got out dang near a grand later... The only thing she said was she was very disappointed in me, that i need to learn to take better care of my responsiblities.
DeleteANYWAYS next year came around we had our 3rd child then taxes came and we had already lost our place and our car had been totaled.. there were issues with out home loan we were working on so we couldve really used the money ..and she said we could claim him.. so When my hubby filed taxes our son came back already claimed..my hubby got fed up and filed that it was a mistake with the irs.. they preceded to start an investigation.. on both of us..I contacted my mom and asked why it said Callan had been claimed (mind you at this point we are stuck living 2 adults and 3 children a toddler and a baby all in a basement together, with no place of our own..) Her response was yeah I claimed him, I decided I needed the money more. I have to get the bathroom up to code bc it didnt pass inspection for the remodel loan im trying to get and besides.. I have custody I can do what I want. So when the IRS STARTED THEIR INVESTIGATION.. that was me causing her unneeded and unwanted stress to deal with .. so i am goin to be penalized.. she took callan from us.. we didnt see him or get to speak with him or even a picture for 3 months.. then she needed a sitter and we got him for the weekend and part of a week.. during summer until she found a full time sitter... which when she found out we had a family Y MEMBERSHIP ..she used our membership to put OUR son in Daycare/summer cmap and then took the privelege of us seeing him back away again.. we walk her line we do what she says we live our lives as she says.. we only keep the friends she allows.. or we dont have him simples as that..i am her puppet she is the puppet master... I have always been the outcast of my family.. I have always been the one to blame for everything ..the one with the responsiblity.. I am the scapegoat for everything.. I am also the worse child she ahs if you ask around.. But if you look at the facts..i am the only to graduate highschool im the only to graduate college I am the only one that has spent 100s of hours volunteering across the u.s. and in our community.. etc etc.. but bc im not the organized scheduling got it together always on time kind of perosn that she wants me to be.. im a p.o.s which IS ALL FINE AND DANDY except she has my kid and its not just me shes hurting anymore..its my hubby its my 3 year old and 2 year old daughters.. that i have to dry tears from every morning after they wake up and go to bubbys room and then search the hosue calling for him and not finding him anywhere ... We made it a point to tell her ..shes not just hurting me..that shes traumatizing the children.. her only response was, well Im not trying to hurt the kids?!?!?!?! and this is how its been all this year. We have literally seen my son a total of 9 times this year.. we just now was able to do christmas with him last night for a whole HOUR!! which probably wouldnt have happened if it wasnt for my mother in law contacting her.. Cause she has literally ignored every single phone call and message i have sent... although every other year of his life hes stayed on christmas eve and had xmas with us as a family.. sHE IS ALIENATING MYSELF AND OUR WHOLE FAMILY She is literally creating chaos and dysfunction in what was once a decent happily together famly.!
DeleteI contacted CPS FOR MEDICAL NEGLECT, They said it was unfounded, although he was referred by the school and his dr. to counseling for his irratic and uncontrollable impulsive behavior. She refused to take him. How is that not neglect. He walked around on a sprained foot wit htorn ligaments for almsot 2 weeks before we finally wiggled a way to c him and took him to urgent care... how is that not neglect? She didnt even bother to make sure there were no broken bones.. or have a dr. give her a 2nd opinion..i say nd bc in my mothers eyes her opinions matters 1st and foremost!.. But This is what I deal with now .. Its all thanks to cps and the family court helping my narcissistic mother legally kidnap my son.
DeleteIF YOU KNOW OF ANY RESOURCES OR HELP ANY OF US CAN USE PLEASE LET US KNOW .. STAY POSITIVE WE ARE GOOD MOTHERS WE WILL GET OUR CHILDREN BACK.. AND THERE WILL ALWAYS BE THAT ONE DAY NO MATTER WHAT .. WHERE THEY TURN 18 AND COME STRAIGHT TO YOU TO FIND OUT WHATS GOING ON AND TO SEE YOU ..WE ARE THEIR MOMS... BUT HOPEFULLY WE GET THEM BACK BEFORE THEN.. STAY STRONG HAVE FAITH GOD BE WITH YOU GOD BLESS YOU I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU